After everything that's gone done in the last couple of weeks, I've gotten a few emails and comments which have basically said, "I want to pick your brain about some of the things you do to stay centered and grounded."
When it comes to being relaxed under pressure, I have one goal...
I want to be the guy who can walk in on his wife in bed with another man and keep cool.
Think about it. This is a situation that has allowed people to get away with murder. The defense? "He saw his wife in bed with another man and went crazy!!"
But it's not really worth going crazy over, is it? Maybe your wife is a bitch and you're better off without her. Or maybe it's something where you should jump in and join the action! There are a million options when something like this happens and most of them have nothing to do with losing your cool.
The bottom line is, even when something "bad" happens, life goes on and you're going to be ok. So why sweat it?
So how to do get to this point? Here are some things that I've found helpful...
- Quiet Time Every Morning - Personally, I do pranayama for about 30 minutes. Your version of this may be prayer or meditation, reading inspirational material, taking a warm bath, or going for a walk. I feel the most important aspect isn't what you do, but having an activity that is free of distractions, such as mobile phones, news, computers, kids, or other people.
- Physical Exercise Each Day - Exercise has been proven to improve mood, boost energy, and decrease depression. All of these things help when you come under stress.
- No Meat (and Very Limited Animal Products) - I stopped eating meat in 1997. I feel better and more "balanced" because of it. Your results may vary.
- No Alcohol - Alcohol is one way of dealing with the stresses of life, but the downside far outweighs the positive, in my opinion. Not hear to preach, so I'll leave it at that.
- A Good Friend - It's nice to be able to bounce things you're dealing with off a third party. A good friend, who knows where you're coming from, can help you to see aspects of situations that may not be obvious when you're directly involved.